Blogger? Writer? What am I?

I have spent many hours over the last week trying to find an effn template for my blog that is more representative of my books and writing style. OMG, it would seem to be an easy enough task but no. I find one I like then the column size cannot be adjusted and my posts make the side bar disappear or fall to the bottom. Then I find a kick ass layout that works with my blog sizes and then it uses white font on a white background and cannot be adjusted without knowing how to write html. Which I dont. ugh. Sorry I just want to be a writer of amazing effn books. But instead I am learning how to navigate the social media in order to have a following for when my book is published but I cannot work on my edits because I am trying to LIKE people on facebook so they will like me. I spend hours making my blog look cool but not giving myself hours to write an amazing blog. What's a girl to do? I will try to continue to be superwoman-- social media, writing, editing, reading, having a full time job, being a full time mom and wife and including lots of praying for my sanity.